“When you drink the water, remember the spring.” ~Chinese Proverb
So, with the majority of our stuff still firmly rooted in the states (see Castaway), I’ve decided to, every once in a while, focus on the smallest things that I find myself missing the most. In other words, I think we all should actually start sweating the small stuff.
Just make sure it’s the little things worth sweating. In other words, a year from now when you look back upon your life, what will matter most? It won’t be our household goods SNAFU….
A couple of years ago I bought a book for me and Jody as either a Valentine’s Day present or anniversary gift; don’t hold that lapse in memory – it’s a small detail! The book is You Still Give Me Butterflies: Feel Like You’re Falling In Love…Again by Laura Corn. From the book itself, “There’s nothing like brand–new love. It takes your breath away. It makes your heart race. It feels like butterflies inside you, all taking flight at once. BESTSELLING AUTHOR LAURA CORN is back with two dozen fun, flirty, romantic and sexy surprises for committed couples. The Red pages are For Her Eyes Only, and the Gold pages are For His Eyes Only….”
Each Chapter focuses on inspirational ideas, complete with “secret” instructions, clues, or invitations to play printed on beautiful butterfly cutouts for him and her contained in sealed envelopes, which will tell how exactly to prepare a breathtaking romantic surprise for your sweetheart. The idea is to exchange cards every month or so. Not only is the card a love note, it heralds a delicious surprise is on the way!
Jody handed me a butterfly and lead me into the kitchen. It was a simple, yet brilliant idea: THE LOVE JUG. The idea: recognize, enhance, and generate acts of intimacy between us. The execution: a glass candy-jar, decorated with instructions and icons of love.
So, every time we do something intimate for each other, we pay into the Love Jug. And this is important: intimacy does not equal sex; intimacy starts in the mind, and is inherent and best recognized in the smallest acts done for one another. Anyone can buy a card on Valentine’s Day, and anyone can go out to dinner. But what about a love note in her lunchbox, or cooking her breakfast, or writing her a steamy sexual fantasy, or hell, even doing domestic engineering chores so she doesn’t have to?!? The amount deposited is rather unimportant; spare change at times, dollar bills at others, maybe a tax return or refund from an overpaid account. Change hitting the glass vessel results a very distinctly audible announcement. However, it is the sword-drawing echoing “sha—RING” created by taking off and putting back on the thin metal top as it slides against its glass coupling that is wholly unmistakable and so totally audible throughout our home. Either sound alone is enough to bring a smile to your face and warmth into your heart. It is the sound of intimacy. And it happens often with our Love Jug.
We committed to this idea for just over a year, maybe 15 months. We decided the focus of the money would be for a yet-to-be planned overseas vacation as a graduation present for ourselves once we both finished our graduate degrees. We settled on Scotland, and when the Love Jug was cashed in, we were amazed to find that we had almost $1,800! And while it’s almost too tempting to focus on the numbers – how much is that a year ($1,440), month ($120), week ($30), and day ($4) – it is much more important to realize how amazing that such small but frequent acts of intimacy and love accumulate so quickly in our lives. What a difference this small idea has had in our lives…all for the “cost” of less than a foo foo coffee at Starbucks a day.
- Happy Even After: 5 Relationship Tips We Can Learn From Fairy Tales (gloganvlog.com)
- Creating an Intimacy-Rich Life: A Journey In Three Stages (psychologytoday.com)
- What happens in the minds of lovers? (soulembraces.com)
- Intimacy and You… (serenensassysoul.com)